The Art of Saying “No”
The Art of Saying ‘No’. An interview with Jen Panaro.
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Jen Panaro is the founder of Honestly Modern, an online brand focusing on sustainable living for modern families.
Jen is passionate about pairing her creative pursuits + translating them into actionable habits everyone can employ.
Between family life, a successful corporate career + her roles as Board Member + Treasurer of her local library, Jen inspires modern families to rethink the status quo.
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The episode in a nutshell:
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Why is it important to say no? How do we get comfortable saying no?
On today’s episode we discuss how to reject single-use plastics + ‘convenient options’ detrimental to the environment.
We rethink the status quo with regard to overscheduling, commitments, everything mainstream + everything in between.
“It’s OK to slow down. It’s OK to relax. It’s OK to let some things go.”
Practical first steps:
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Take small steps.
Take easy steps.
Look to minimalist gurus as inspirations, not as guides.
With children:
- Limit extracurriculars.
- Adopt the mantra: “Different family have different rules.”
- Redirect whenever possible.
- Remember that – sometimes – it’s OK to just say no.
Notable quotes from the episode:
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“I give my kids a choice but do so within guardrails that I think are OK.”
“Sometimes I say no; sometimes I say yes.”
“We have a principle in our house: Different families have different rules.”
“Making life changes is like picking fruit from a fruit tree. You start with the low-hanging fruit: you start with what’s easy + over time you move on to the next step + start reaching for the fruit that’s a bit higher. You don’t go for the top apples first.”
“In taking small steps we have the opportunity to reflect at each crossroad + ask, ‘Is this serving me well? Is this working for us? Do we need to make some modifications?'”
“Rethinking the status quo means reflecting on whether or not that’s what you want + whether it’s just the easy answer.”
2 thoughts on “The Art of Saying “No””
Enjoyed this immensely. Believe me saying no now will mean resilient teens later. My kids get $1 per year of age each fortnightly payday. How they chose to spend it is up to them. But that means if they ask for money in the supermarket they will cop my no loan policy and they have to wait. Now occasionally I will pay for something but there usually is a good reason behind it. I am so glad you are limiting the after school activities. Believe me this is smart. You will save everyone’s sanity including your own. I also work in mental health and I see a lot of teens that are not resilient. Saying no actually helps them grow resilience.
Hi Donna,
No Loan policy! I love it + am definitely stealing the idea as my children grow. Thank you for offering wisdom that minimalist parenting works with older children!
Stephanie
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